As the year draws near to a close I am left to reflect the past year. I can full heartedly say it has been one interesting year. The year has been full of many emotions, some up & some down.
Some of the greatest highlights have been shared with family. My amazing daughters have filled my days with so much joy. I have watched them grow over the year into these incredible young ladies of substance. They are true blue, what you see is what you get. I am proud of them as a parent. They have walked the walk of faith and have stayed true to their faith. Girls you are mighty young ladies of God with a heart for his work. Well done my sweets.
I celebrated my 16th wedding anniversary with the one true love of my life. In the world we live in I am proud to say that Jason is my best friend & my one and only. ( I still think he's sexy)lol.... After 16 years of marriage & 18 of partnership he still the one for me. Jason thank you for loving me and being my rock during this turbulent year. The world tried to kick us down but as usual you & I together can take anything on. When the enemy meant to destroy us only made us stronger.
As we enter the new year I go in with a renewed vision & a renewed passion for His work. I can honestly say the wind was kicked out of me momentarily but you can't keep a good woman down. I picked myself up, dusted the dirt off, squared my shoulders back and got back in the saddle. So to speak......
As many of you know I am a strong opinionated women & I'm not afraid of speaking my mind. So I could not pass on the opportunity to speak out.
The last six months have been like none I have experienced before. I have kept silent for a long time but I felt the need to clear the air and go in with a clear heart into 2008. Jason & I did not leave our youth by choice we left because we had no choice. Yet people act like we did something wrong. All we did was leave to protect someone else's secret and we remained silent because we had to. It has been a real trip to see so many Christian's act so unchristian. The amount of grace, love, compassion, and ministry showed by these mature grace giving Christians has been a real joke. All I can say is thank you for showing your true colors and for letting us see who you really were. I was really deeply hurt at first by these peoples actions because many I considered friends but now I'm just disappointed in their spiritual maturity.
In many ways you have inspired me to go out and really make a difference, to create an environment or culture of church where people are really ministered to. I want people to know that God loves them all the time and He excepts them just where they are. It amazes me how we judge others so freely but we fail to judge ourselves. We are not perfect we live in an imperfect world but yet we look down on others and pass judgment on sin we've mastered but what about the sin that masters you?
I could go on but I won't. I want out of 2008 a year of sincerity, a year of growth, and most of all a year of healing.
As I go into this year I leave a lot behind. Some great memories with people I love & cherish & some painful memories with people I am trying to forget.
So 2008 look out we are gearing up to Dominate this area for Christ....
Monday, December 31, 2007
Saturday, December 08, 2007
What Are Your Actions Saying Part 2
As I keep reading through this book unChristian my main thought is: It is no wonder why society is rejecting Christianity.
Truth is, they are not really rejecting Jesus they are rejecting the person who is selling their version of Christianity. Many things have been said about this generation. This generation of mosaics and busters are diverse and extremely unique but most of all I give them credit for one thing. They can see right through us. It is interesting to hear what they think. The remarks and statistics are staggering.
I apologize if I sound upset but their are over 50 million people out their who feel we are not authentic because our words and actions don't line up.
So, here is my challenge. Perception is truth to the person who feels it is or is living the experience. It is not about being right, it is about validating what the person has experienced.
When prophecy was given about the church being a hospital it was not to heal the hurts the church inflicted on it's people it was to heal the lost and hurting beyond the church walls. We have distorted that tremendously.
As Christians we need to let our yes be yes and our no be no. We need to mean what we say and say what we mean. If you truly are a grace giving church then give it, if you're walking in forgiveness then live it, and if you're truly sorry than say it. Am I saying I am there.... no I'm not. What I am saying is I personally have experienced it firsthand and I know how hard it really is.
All I am saying is we need to get it right. We need to change our approach and how we do church. There is a generation out there lost ..........lost to us and the gap is getting bigger. We are losing ground and yet we remain self absorbed and ignorant to what is happening.
This book I am currently reading called unChristian is about "What this generation really thinks about Christianity .......and why it matters."
It really does matter. If I who have been saved for over 14 years feel or have experienced things that no person should have to at a church, what hope do we have of reaching those who have never been to church. How can we reach them when we can't get it right ourselves.
Simply food for thought.
Truth is, they are not really rejecting Jesus they are rejecting the person who is selling their version of Christianity. Many things have been said about this generation. This generation of mosaics and busters are diverse and extremely unique but most of all I give them credit for one thing. They can see right through us. It is interesting to hear what they think. The remarks and statistics are staggering.
I apologize if I sound upset but their are over 50 million people out their who feel we are not authentic because our words and actions don't line up.
So, here is my challenge. Perception is truth to the person who feels it is or is living the experience. It is not about being right, it is about validating what the person has experienced.
When prophecy was given about the church being a hospital it was not to heal the hurts the church inflicted on it's people it was to heal the lost and hurting beyond the church walls. We have distorted that tremendously.
As Christians we need to let our yes be yes and our no be no. We need to mean what we say and say what we mean. If you truly are a grace giving church then give it, if you're walking in forgiveness then live it, and if you're truly sorry than say it. Am I saying I am there.... no I'm not. What I am saying is I personally have experienced it firsthand and I know how hard it really is.
All I am saying is we need to get it right. We need to change our approach and how we do church. There is a generation out there lost ..........lost to us and the gap is getting bigger. We are losing ground and yet we remain self absorbed and ignorant to what is happening.
This book I am currently reading called unChristian is about "What this generation really thinks about Christianity .......and why it matters."
It really does matter. If I who have been saved for over 14 years feel or have experienced things that no person should have to at a church, what hope do we have of reaching those who have never been to church. How can we reach them when we can't get it right ourselves.
Simply food for thought.
Friday, December 07, 2007
What Are Your Actions Saying Part 1
Over the past six months I have learned that actions speak louder than words. I was reading a book today my husband got in the mail called unChristian. This really got me thinking about a lot of things that have gone on.
I have discovered that people always give the politically correct answer or they pick the one that sounds the most spiritual in an effort to make themselves appear super holy. I will admit that I have answered that way before. When someone asked, "How are you?" My answer was, "Oh I'm great," and realistically everything is a mess. My favorite, "it's great to see you", and you know they were secretly hoping you did not see them and they just couldn't get out of the isle in time. Not that I have ever done that.....(LOL) The truth is we give lip service. Yep that is right lip service!!!!!!!
Some us walk around quoting scripture. We can quote from Genesis to Revelation. We have a scripture for every occasion kind of like Hallmark has a card for every occasion. But my question is...can we live it? I have heard it all: I forgive you, we love you, were praying for you, and were showing you grace. All which sound extremely ironic because they are "said" not done. They become empty words when delivered without action.
So here is my point......Don't say the words if you don't mean them and surely don't say them if you can't live them. It is awful to hear and painful to swallow.
I can honestly say if one more Pastor says were here to see you through and then you never hear from them again or we are grace with an attitude then they snub you. I can't take one more bloated slogan or tag line meant to catch your attention when I personally have not felt any of what your offering. I might have to repent for the actions that will follow. (jk)
I have discovered that people always give the politically correct answer or they pick the one that sounds the most spiritual in an effort to make themselves appear super holy. I will admit that I have answered that way before. When someone asked, "How are you?" My answer was, "Oh I'm great," and realistically everything is a mess. My favorite, "it's great to see you", and you know they were secretly hoping you did not see them and they just couldn't get out of the isle in time. Not that I have ever done that.....(LOL) The truth is we give lip service. Yep that is right lip service!!!!!!!
Some us walk around quoting scripture. We can quote from Genesis to Revelation. We have a scripture for every occasion kind of like Hallmark has a card for every occasion. But my question is...can we live it? I have heard it all: I forgive you, we love you, were praying for you, and were showing you grace. All which sound extremely ironic because they are "said" not done. They become empty words when delivered without action.
So here is my point......Don't say the words if you don't mean them and surely don't say them if you can't live them. It is awful to hear and painful to swallow.
I can honestly say if one more Pastor says were here to see you through and then you never hear from them again or we are grace with an attitude then they snub you. I can't take one more bloated slogan or tag line meant to catch your attention when I personally have not felt any of what your offering. I might have to repent for the actions that will follow. (jk)
Thursday, December 06, 2007
Going Forward
Thanks for the continued prayers and support you guys have been awesome. My mom is doing great and my family is doing well. My girls are amazing. They are the best girls in the whole world. I could not have asked for better daughters. They really have it together.
We are currently looking ahead to our church plant and are excited about what God is doing. He is bringing together a great launch team that has a passion to change this area for Christ. Please continue to pray for us as we begin a new chapter in our lives. We are beyond ecstatic and grateful for God's provision. He will supply all our needs above and beyond what we can comprehend.
It is amazing to see doors open where others had been shut. What the enemy meant to destroy us with God used for His Glory. My advise, keep your eyes on God because man will only let you down.......................
Thank you Father for showing us what real grace looks like and for being there to pick us up when we were down. I can honestly say you were constant in our lives you never left us and you never forsake us.
We are currently looking ahead to our church plant and are excited about what God is doing. He is bringing together a great launch team that has a passion to change this area for Christ. Please continue to pray for us as we begin a new chapter in our lives. We are beyond ecstatic and grateful for God's provision. He will supply all our needs above and beyond what we can comprehend.
It is amazing to see doors open where others had been shut. What the enemy meant to destroy us with God used for His Glory. My advise, keep your eyes on God because man will only let you down.......................
Thank you Father for showing us what real grace looks like and for being there to pick us up when we were down. I can honestly say you were constant in our lives you never left us and you never forsake us.
Saturday, November 03, 2007
Gaining Perspecitive
It has been a long time since I have signed in. I needed some time to separate myself from everything that was happening and gain some perspective.
Things are finally settling down and returning to somewhat normal. I would say normal but I'm not a normal person so that would not be true.(lol) I wanted to thank everyone who has prayed and supported us over the last 4 months. I will admit it has been a difficult journey that we have not always handled well. When life changes sometimes and it changes in ways that you don't expect you kind of get lost in the process.
For years Jason and I have been in ministry and it has been our whole lives. it was devastating to wake up one morning and literally not have it. It kind of takes a little piece of who you are. It was hard to find my barrings and it was even harder to find myself. In some way my identity was wrapped into what we did.
When I lost that I felt as if I had lost myself. Of course I realize that who I am in Christ Jesus never changes but our perspective changes. I guess I should say how we view ourselves changes. I know today that we gain our confidence from Christ and I know that God loves us and wants what is best for us.
So even though men disappoint us and life changes God never changes. He remains the same. He remains constant in our lives and we are loving Him and serving Him on His terms now.
Once again thank you for praying for us it has been a long narrow road and a weary traveled one. We really do appreciate the prayers and the words of encouragement you have send our way.
God is not done with us and we know that in time God will heal and somehow use what the enemy has caused great pain with for His glory. God can turn around this situation after all we are all children of the most high.
Things are finally settling down and returning to somewhat normal. I would say normal but I'm not a normal person so that would not be true.(lol) I wanted to thank everyone who has prayed and supported us over the last 4 months. I will admit it has been a difficult journey that we have not always handled well. When life changes sometimes and it changes in ways that you don't expect you kind of get lost in the process.
For years Jason and I have been in ministry and it has been our whole lives. it was devastating to wake up one morning and literally not have it. It kind of takes a little piece of who you are. It was hard to find my barrings and it was even harder to find myself. In some way my identity was wrapped into what we did.
When I lost that I felt as if I had lost myself. Of course I realize that who I am in Christ Jesus never changes but our perspective changes. I guess I should say how we view ourselves changes. I know today that we gain our confidence from Christ and I know that God loves us and wants what is best for us.
So even though men disappoint us and life changes God never changes. He remains the same. He remains constant in our lives and we are loving Him and serving Him on His terms now.
Once again thank you for praying for us it has been a long narrow road and a weary traveled one. We really do appreciate the prayers and the words of encouragement you have send our way.
God is not done with us and we know that in time God will heal and somehow use what the enemy has caused great pain with for His glory. God can turn around this situation after all we are all children of the most high.
Saturday, April 28, 2007
Be Still
So many things happen on a daily basis that if you are not careful you here those voices and forget to here the voice of God. I've been there lately to much for my liking. It seems like time, people, and the whole world are spinning around and I'm trying my best to be still. I know be still and know that He is God or be anxious for nothing. Of course I should cast my cares on Him because He cares but really folks. If it were that easy most of the world would not be struggling and we would all live in a perfect place. You and I both know that is not so.
It seems like our brain knows what to do and our hearts should follow but it is not always that easy. We are all human and our emotions play a huge part of how we feel. I have been in ministry for over 12 years and I can honestly say I thought once I made that commitment every thing would fall in place. That was me being naive. I guess you know the answer, that didn't happen. Those of you in ministry know that most of your real hurts in life come from those you serve. Those cut the deepest.
It is important to remember your not in this alone. God is with you and He is faithful. Joy does come in the morning and the darkness turns to light if you let it.
I can honestly say I haven't felt much joy lately and things have been stressful and confusing. I have often asked God why am I here and what is my purpose. I have really felt I don't fit and why did you bring us here? I absolutely love the teens we minister to but there are other contributing factors that make it difficult and stressful. I am not ungrateful and I am appreciative of the opportunity to serve and lead such a great team of teens. They have been the greatest team and by far the best part of our job.
All I can say is that God has a plan. I don't know what that plan is or how I fit into it but I know He has one.
It's time to face those giants in my life and stop having a pity party. I never much liked those anyway.
It seems like our brain knows what to do and our hearts should follow but it is not always that easy. We are all human and our emotions play a huge part of how we feel. I have been in ministry for over 12 years and I can honestly say I thought once I made that commitment every thing would fall in place. That was me being naive. I guess you know the answer, that didn't happen. Those of you in ministry know that most of your real hurts in life come from those you serve. Those cut the deepest.
It is important to remember your not in this alone. God is with you and He is faithful. Joy does come in the morning and the darkness turns to light if you let it.
I can honestly say I haven't felt much joy lately and things have been stressful and confusing. I have often asked God why am I here and what is my purpose. I have really felt I don't fit and why did you bring us here? I absolutely love the teens we minister to but there are other contributing factors that make it difficult and stressful. I am not ungrateful and I am appreciative of the opportunity to serve and lead such a great team of teens. They have been the greatest team and by far the best part of our job.
All I can say is that God has a plan. I don't know what that plan is or how I fit into it but I know He has one.
It's time to face those giants in my life and stop having a pity party. I never much liked those anyway.
Thursday, April 19, 2007
We Need A Hero!
In light of the recent massacres at Virginia Tech it led me to think, "What in the World?" What in the world is going on? How can a young man march into a major university and violently take their lives?
It is hard to comprehend that I am living in era with such hatred and anger that leads one to take the life of another. It angers me that VT has lost it's innocence at the hands of a selfish murder. It angers me that mothers and fathers will go to bed tonight and know that their loved ones are gone. I can't tell you how much it angers me and how I hurt for those parents to be robbed of so many precious memories, weddings , graduations, and grandchildren just to name a few. But nothing angers me more than to know that as a nation and a church we do nothing.
Yes I mean nothing. It is no coincidence that the moral bankruptcy of our nation is tied into the time the bible was taken out of our schools. It no coincidence that we went completely bankrupt when we as church stood by silently. We have no one to blame but ourselves. We pick each other apart and flex our muscle as a church to prove we are better than others but are we really? We are arrogant in our thinking. We are so busy with our bravado and our building programs to impress those that come through our doors. Jesus didn't need a building He went to them!!!!!!! He didn't say build it and they will come He said go into the streets and the byways. He said feed my children. I am grateful for what we have, but in the grand scheme of eternity, if we aren't reaching them it does not matter how pretty it is.
If we as a church stood our ground and voiced our concern then maybe just maybe we can make a difference. I support missions and respect the work and the role a missionary has in the local church. What I don't get is how we support so many missionaries but we fail to support our own local outreach. We need to reach our communities, neighbors, and impact our schools . Nothings peeves me more than to cut out outreach events because we have no budget. We have about 32,000 teens in our community and we are only reaching a very small percentage of them. It is not lack of passion it is about the math. Our own backyards are huge mission fields and yet we send our money into foreign countries. Come on people how lame are we.
It reminds me of a youth conference we were at in Pensacola Florida in the 90's and a pastor gave a heart wrenching testimony about his youth group. He talked about a young man that was in his group, a guy that was hard to love. You know we all have one of those. He said he tried really hard but Brian was just tough and a hard case to deal with. He went on to say they planned a fun day at a theme park and Brian walked around by himself all day and no one would talk to him. Well, Brian today is know as Marilyn Manson one of the most influential shock artists this generation has ever seen. Today he is single-handedly leading thousands to hell with him and he knows it. You see, Brian has a huge hatred for the church and the hypocrisy it stood for. I can't say I blame him. While we dance around political correctness, not being offensive, and making sure we stay neutral on all issues, he and others launch an all out assault on our teens. What is wrong with us?
To the families of VT our heartfelt prayers go out to you. We are praying for you and standing firm with you. We will not forget and we will learn from this. It is our prayer to impact our generation for Christ and leave no teen behind.
It is hard to comprehend that I am living in era with such hatred and anger that leads one to take the life of another. It angers me that VT has lost it's innocence at the hands of a selfish murder. It angers me that mothers and fathers will go to bed tonight and know that their loved ones are gone. I can't tell you how much it angers me and how I hurt for those parents to be robbed of so many precious memories, weddings , graduations, and grandchildren just to name a few. But nothing angers me more than to know that as a nation and a church we do nothing.
Yes I mean nothing. It is no coincidence that the moral bankruptcy of our nation is tied into the time the bible was taken out of our schools. It no coincidence that we went completely bankrupt when we as church stood by silently. We have no one to blame but ourselves. We pick each other apart and flex our muscle as a church to prove we are better than others but are we really? We are arrogant in our thinking. We are so busy with our bravado and our building programs to impress those that come through our doors. Jesus didn't need a building He went to them!!!!!!! He didn't say build it and they will come He said go into the streets and the byways. He said feed my children. I am grateful for what we have, but in the grand scheme of eternity, if we aren't reaching them it does not matter how pretty it is.
If we as a church stood our ground and voiced our concern then maybe just maybe we can make a difference. I support missions and respect the work and the role a missionary has in the local church. What I don't get is how we support so many missionaries but we fail to support our own local outreach. We need to reach our communities, neighbors, and impact our schools . Nothings peeves me more than to cut out outreach events because we have no budget. We have about 32,000 teens in our community and we are only reaching a very small percentage of them. It is not lack of passion it is about the math. Our own backyards are huge mission fields and yet we send our money into foreign countries. Come on people how lame are we.
It reminds me of a youth conference we were at in Pensacola Florida in the 90's and a pastor gave a heart wrenching testimony about his youth group. He talked about a young man that was in his group, a guy that was hard to love. You know we all have one of those. He said he tried really hard but Brian was just tough and a hard case to deal with. He went on to say they planned a fun day at a theme park and Brian walked around by himself all day and no one would talk to him. Well, Brian today is know as Marilyn Manson one of the most influential shock artists this generation has ever seen. Today he is single-handedly leading thousands to hell with him and he knows it. You see, Brian has a huge hatred for the church and the hypocrisy it stood for. I can't say I blame him. While we dance around political correctness, not being offensive, and making sure we stay neutral on all issues, he and others launch an all out assault on our teens. What is wrong with us?
To the families of VT our heartfelt prayers go out to you. We are praying for you and standing firm with you. We will not forget and we will learn from this. It is our prayer to impact our generation for Christ and leave no teen behind.
Thursday, April 12, 2007
What a Great Night
What a great night at Elevate. It was awesome to see so many kids out on a regular Wednesday night. It blesses us as pastors when our teens run up and introduce you to there friends. How cool is that? Not only are they inviting them out to Elevate but they are introducing them to there pastors.
I don't know about you but that itself is a miracle. Like parting the Red Sea miracle. Teens are not in the habit of hanging out places that are not kosher. So to our staff and to our Volunteers, Great Job guys.
You are making it happen. It is not because of what we do but what you do every week. Thank you for the countless hours and thank you for working so hard at creating a great place for our teens to hang out and bring their friends to. I can honestly say it is a privilege and a honor to serve along your side.
We are so excited about the future and know God has a awesome plan for us. Hang on guys we are about to blow the roof off. We are going to shake and flip this town upside down and all around for Jesus. This is only the beginning a tip or a small insight to what God is about to do.
I don't know about you but that itself is a miracle. Like parting the Red Sea miracle. Teens are not in the habit of hanging out places that are not kosher. So to our staff and to our Volunteers, Great Job guys.
You are making it happen. It is not because of what we do but what you do every week. Thank you for the countless hours and thank you for working so hard at creating a great place for our teens to hang out and bring their friends to. I can honestly say it is a privilege and a honor to serve along your side.
We are so excited about the future and know God has a awesome plan for us. Hang on guys we are about to blow the roof off. We are going to shake and flip this town upside down and all around for Jesus. This is only the beginning a tip or a small insight to what God is about to do.
Tuesday, April 10, 2007
Well done
Just wanted to give my husband the best dad and pastor in the universe a shout out.
Honey your the best..... Your a great husband, a great dad, and a wonderful example to our teens everyday. We know how hard you work and the price we pay daily and we love you. I know you often work hard and at times feel unappreciated but we want you to know we think your awesome.
Jay everyday you give 100 percent and you lead with great character. You are a true measure of a man. Shelby still thinks of you as her hero and is never embarrassed to be seen with her stylish dad. Your still Micaiah's wrestling and math partner. Mckenzie still thinks her daddy is Superman and I still think your the sexiest man alive. On top of that you run a top notch ministry on your spare time.(what spare time)lol
As you go into this weekend know that we love you and we stand with great pride by your side. You are one of the most innovative and creative Pastors we know. Thanks for setting a great example for our girls and for setting the pace for our teens.
We love you.... Well done
Honey your the best..... Your a great husband, a great dad, and a wonderful example to our teens everyday. We know how hard you work and the price we pay daily and we love you. I know you often work hard and at times feel unappreciated but we want you to know we think your awesome.
Jay everyday you give 100 percent and you lead with great character. You are a true measure of a man. Shelby still thinks of you as her hero and is never embarrassed to be seen with her stylish dad. Your still Micaiah's wrestling and math partner. Mckenzie still thinks her daddy is Superman and I still think your the sexiest man alive. On top of that you run a top notch ministry on your spare time.(what spare time)lol
As you go into this weekend know that we love you and we stand with great pride by your side. You are one of the most innovative and creative Pastors we know. Thanks for setting a great example for our girls and for setting the pace for our teens.
We love you.... Well done
Friday, April 06, 2007
Showing Gratitude
As a pastor's wife we always strive to make our team and volunteers feel appreciated. Just thought I would share those with you. I know how it feels to work really hard towards a goal or be on a team and not feel validated. It strips your team of unity and it robs them of a sense of accomplishment. So here are a few ways to avoid the pitfall of taking your team for granted or causing dissidence among the ranks.
1. Always always say thank you no matter how small the deed say thank you.
2. Show your gratitude with a card or random gift or a just because gift.
3. Be proactive in all things instead of reactive.
4. Be available to your team. Don't live on island no one can reach.
5. Plan team building events that all can participate in. Try to keep finances and family time in mind because these things often add stress. Example. Don't plan events that cause money and make them mandatory keep family budgets in mind not every one might be able to afford this. When planning a team building event keep the whole family in mind you want to create fun not add stress to the family.
6. Never never discuss a staff issue with a church member. Actually don't ever discuss staff issues with anyone other than the staff member. Remember the Matthew principal it works.
7. Treat all your team with respect. Always remember respect is earned don't take it for granted.
8. Be a team player. Always lead by example. Your team is watching or waiting for you to set the pace.
9. Be loving and kind that will get you a long way. No one likes a dictator.
10. Once again thank you goes a long way. Your team needs to hear your affirmation. They need to know you appreciate them and what they do is valuable to your team. After all you can't achieve true success without your team no man can be a team alone it takes others buying into your vision and helping you fulfill the vision for the church.
That's my ten quick steps to showing gratitude. I know I value my team they are the best group of young people I have ever worked with. We love them and appreciate all they do but most of all we value them as people.
It is important for those around us to know we love them and respect them. Jay and I try to lead by example and earn respect. We take nothing for granted and work hard and validating what they do. I guarantee you affirmation goes a long way. I personally never want to lead as a dictator or want my staff to lead with blind submission. I want to hear their thoughts and their ideas and allow them to develop them and grow them. We are here to serve Christ and serve the needs of the church not have the church serve our needs.
Remember it's only my opinion...
1. Always always say thank you no matter how small the deed say thank you.
2. Show your gratitude with a card or random gift or a just because gift.
3. Be proactive in all things instead of reactive.
4. Be available to your team. Don't live on island no one can reach.
5. Plan team building events that all can participate in. Try to keep finances and family time in mind because these things often add stress. Example. Don't plan events that cause money and make them mandatory keep family budgets in mind not every one might be able to afford this. When planning a team building event keep the whole family in mind you want to create fun not add stress to the family.
6. Never never discuss a staff issue with a church member. Actually don't ever discuss staff issues with anyone other than the staff member. Remember the Matthew principal it works.
7. Treat all your team with respect. Always remember respect is earned don't take it for granted.
8. Be a team player. Always lead by example. Your team is watching or waiting for you to set the pace.
9. Be loving and kind that will get you a long way. No one likes a dictator.
10. Once again thank you goes a long way. Your team needs to hear your affirmation. They need to know you appreciate them and what they do is valuable to your team. After all you can't achieve true success without your team no man can be a team alone it takes others buying into your vision and helping you fulfill the vision for the church.
That's my ten quick steps to showing gratitude. I know I value my team they are the best group of young people I have ever worked with. We love them and appreciate all they do but most of all we value them as people.
It is important for those around us to know we love them and respect them. Jay and I try to lead by example and earn respect. We take nothing for granted and work hard and validating what they do. I guarantee you affirmation goes a long way. I personally never want to lead as a dictator or want my staff to lead with blind submission. I want to hear their thoughts and their ideas and allow them to develop them and grow them. We are here to serve Christ and serve the needs of the church not have the church serve our needs.
Remember it's only my opinion...
Monday, April 02, 2007
Happy Anniversary
I can't believe it has been a whole year. That's right one whole year. It has been exactly one year since we moved to Corpus to pastor what I consider the best group of teens in the area. I can hardly believe that much time has passed since we left Victoria.
To be honest when we left Victoria my girls and I were not looking forward to the move. It was especially hard on my oldest daughter because she had worked hard on building her reputation there. She was a great academic student and a great athlete with many great friends that she loved and they loved her back. Myself, I absolutely loved the school I worked at and I loved the teens I got to work with every day. It was my ideal job. I got to do the things I loved best everyday. Coaching great kids and teaching great kids so leaving was exceptional hard.
I never imagined that in less than a year everything would be ok. My girls have adjusted well and things get better each day. I still miss home and a piece of my heart will forever be with those kids but the kids here have a home in my heart as well. God gives us a huge capacity to love and if we allow Him to he can fill it with much love.
So after our first year we are happy to be here, loving ministry, and getting to know our new family. Life is good and we are grateful for the opportunity to be at a great church. We have seen great growth in a year and have build a great team around us. Alone we can achieve nothing but with help the possibilities are endless. The first year was about building a core team. It was about a worship team, leadership team, follow-up teams, greeters, and of course the teens. After all everything is about them. We have seen the ministry double in the first year and now are looking to doubling again. The goal was not set by us it was set my our team and young people. They want to see the ministry explode and they work hard at inviting their friends every week. How can you not love them?
I can't wait for the next year and the next.
To be honest when we left Victoria my girls and I were not looking forward to the move. It was especially hard on my oldest daughter because she had worked hard on building her reputation there. She was a great academic student and a great athlete with many great friends that she loved and they loved her back. Myself, I absolutely loved the school I worked at and I loved the teens I got to work with every day. It was my ideal job. I got to do the things I loved best everyday. Coaching great kids and teaching great kids so leaving was exceptional hard.
I never imagined that in less than a year everything would be ok. My girls have adjusted well and things get better each day. I still miss home and a piece of my heart will forever be with those kids but the kids here have a home in my heart as well. God gives us a huge capacity to love and if we allow Him to he can fill it with much love.
So after our first year we are happy to be here, loving ministry, and getting to know our new family. Life is good and we are grateful for the opportunity to be at a great church. We have seen great growth in a year and have build a great team around us. Alone we can achieve nothing but with help the possibilities are endless. The first year was about building a core team. It was about a worship team, leadership team, follow-up teams, greeters, and of course the teens. After all everything is about them. We have seen the ministry double in the first year and now are looking to doubling again. The goal was not set by us it was set my our team and young people. They want to see the ministry explode and they work hard at inviting their friends every week. How can you not love them?
I can't wait for the next year and the next.
Wednesday, March 28, 2007
My Confession
If you haven't already guessed I'll let you in on my confession. I know nothing about computers. I mean zip absolutely nothing. It has been in recent months that I started to learn a little something about them.
For years I have worked in an office as a administrative assistant and used word, excel, and other programs. The thought of web, Internet, My-space, or blogging was a foreign concept to me.
Here's the truth I did not set up my blogger account. There I said it. My sweet loving husband set up the whole thing. I myself don't really like to put myself out there. I don't like being under a microscope and having my thoughts put out there for the world to judge. I know it sounds rough but it's the truth. I am very cautious of what I put out there not out of fear but simply from past experience. I have never had a problem speaking my mind what I have a problem with is people using it against me.
I know in general people mean well but there is always that one person who feels they are called to be the town crier or the church crier. Every church has one no one will admit it but we do. We had Mike Rowan in our church a few weeks ago and I loved that guy. He did a sermon called Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs the dwarfs were the characteristics of the church body. Wow that was funny but he said everything every pastor wants to say but can't. God bless those Evangelists.
So why I am doing this. Because I love my husband and he wants me to and mainly because I don't like being censored. It's kind of like the flea in a jar thing or coloring outside the lines. I never liked staying in those lines much and I never liked being in a box.
For years I have worked in an office as a administrative assistant and used word, excel, and other programs. The thought of web, Internet, My-space, or blogging was a foreign concept to me.
Here's the truth I did not set up my blogger account. There I said it. My sweet loving husband set up the whole thing. I myself don't really like to put myself out there. I don't like being under a microscope and having my thoughts put out there for the world to judge. I know it sounds rough but it's the truth. I am very cautious of what I put out there not out of fear but simply from past experience. I have never had a problem speaking my mind what I have a problem with is people using it against me.
I know in general people mean well but there is always that one person who feels they are called to be the town crier or the church crier. Every church has one no one will admit it but we do. We had Mike Rowan in our church a few weeks ago and I loved that guy. He did a sermon called Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs the dwarfs were the characteristics of the church body. Wow that was funny but he said everything every pastor wants to say but can't. God bless those Evangelists.
So why I am doing this. Because I love my husband and he wants me to and mainly because I don't like being censored. It's kind of like the flea in a jar thing or coloring outside the lines. I never liked staying in those lines much and I never liked being in a box.
Tuesday, March 27, 2007
Bet You Didn't Know...
I Bet you didn't know that .....
I married the man of my dreams. (Don't tell him I said that)
I LOVE Chocolate.
I LOVE a comfy pair of pj's (they are highly underrated)
I have a wicked sense of humor.
I am a total klutz. (What a shocker)
I cry at almost every movie.
I am a total sap for a love story.
I am a reality show junkie. (Sorry)
My favorite sport in the world is shopping. My friends all know that.
If I were rich I would give my money all away. That would go to orphanages and other children's programs.
I would love to adopt lots of babies. They need someone to love them and I need someone to love.
I would love to end racial hatred. Ignorance is not knowing which breeds fear.
I am a country girl at heart. (Shhhhh most people think I'm a city girl.)
I thinks pigs are beautiful. (Really)
I LOVE the snow and cold weather. (Funny because I live in Texas.)
But seriously most of all I am love with serving Christ and I have no regrets.
Just thought you should know.
I married the man of my dreams. (Don't tell him I said that)
I LOVE Chocolate.
I LOVE a comfy pair of pj's (they are highly underrated)
I have a wicked sense of humor.
I am a total klutz. (What a shocker)
I cry at almost every movie.
I am a total sap for a love story.
I am a reality show junkie. (Sorry)
My favorite sport in the world is shopping. My friends all know that.
If I were rich I would give my money all away. That would go to orphanages and other children's programs.
I would love to adopt lots of babies. They need someone to love them and I need someone to love.
I would love to end racial hatred. Ignorance is not knowing which breeds fear.
I am a country girl at heart. (Shhhhh most people think I'm a city girl.)
I thinks pigs are beautiful. (Really)
I LOVE the snow and cold weather. (Funny because I live in Texas.)
But seriously most of all I am love with serving Christ and I have no regrets.
Just thought you should know.
What Really Matters?
Why is it that people place value on the silliest of things? Where you work? What you drive? Where you live? Like all of these components together are a automatic pass to success and happiness.
It seems like we focus so much of our energy on these things.
It seems like wasted energy. I recently have been bombarded with Anna Nicole information even though I was NOT really interested. It was a tragic incident but none the less there are far more tragic things in the world besides what happened to her? I was frustrated that so many things are wrong in the world and the media chose that event to focus on. I guess it was a reprieve from their bashing of George Bush campaign.
We waste so much of our energy on things that are not eternal that if we focused on the things God has called us to we would make a difference in the lives of those around us. Don't get me wrong success is great and money is great and many times I have found myself wanting to do more but was limited by my budget. What I didn't do though is do nothing because I had nothing to give. I realized I had something. I had time and ideas. I had energy that could be donated to projects that were important to the church.
We have known for years that the Laborers were few. We do not need a prophet or visions to tell us. What we need is ready willing workers who will come along side their pastors and put aside their agendas for the betterment of God's Kingdom.
My daughter for being young has great insight. Her heart aches for the lost children of Darfur. She often says mom the media bashes our President and they cry foul over a war. The war is tragic and it affects all daily. But those men fight for our civil liberties everyday and some give there lives for it and we are saddened by it. But you cannot say that the media has chosen to have a bias focus on that.
The reality is that men are dieing but more children are dieing every day in Africa from aids and starvation. Genocide has been occurring for years and yet we barely hear anything about that. Thousands and thousands of children die everyday and I have yet to see one reporter cover their funeral. Where are the cameras on there deaths and all the tragic events they are enduring everyday while you waste money covering events that don't even measure up in the grand scheme of eternity? If they took the money that they put into cameras, and stories, and traveling for their crews it could feed those children for months maybe even a year. I know their jobs are necessary but their lop sided reporting really gets my goat.
Well you say thats fine and great but I don't live in Africa. Ok than. In our country more children die everyday than men have died in the Iraqi war since it started. They die at the hands of their own abusive parents every year. They die in our cities and in our streets at the hands of violent criminals. Where is the cry of injustice from our Media on those social issues.
If we each decided to make a difference in the lives of those around us I believe we could change the world. Recently I read a story from a family in North Carolina who had a children's African choir at their church. The women spoke on how God told her two of those boys were hers. I remember because she didn't want to hear God at first but knew she had to. Her obedience and her actions resulted in over 30 children being adopted from a orphanage in Africa. Well you might say I can't do that.
Maybe you can't but can you answer a phone, can you make copies, bake goodies, clean restrooms, volunteer to serve your pastor, or better yet volunteer at a ministry. All of those things cost next to nothing and many are free. But yet our people act as if we are asking for their cars or homes. (God can do that too by the way) Is it that much to ask for?
We are given so much and yet we give our energy and our time to things that don't mean much. I do it too. Our kids play sports and we are busy. My husband runs a ministry and that takes time and there are other things. But if we gave God half the energy we give the world we would have to build more churches to fit all the people whose lives would be touched. Your actions can make a difference. What will you do? Will you get in the game of life or will you sit idle and watch the world set the tone? It won't only affect others but will affect your little piece of the world too. Get involved. I bet if you talked with your Pastor you would find out he has so much vision for the city and how to make a impact but simply needs help. I know because as Pastors there is so much we want to do to make our city better, the lives of those we love better, and our schools, oh our schools how they need us. But, we can't do it alone. We are trying but we simply need you to get involved. Don't wait till tomorrow do it today.....
It seems like we focus so much of our energy on these things.
It seems like wasted energy. I recently have been bombarded with Anna Nicole information even though I was NOT really interested. It was a tragic incident but none the less there are far more tragic things in the world besides what happened to her? I was frustrated that so many things are wrong in the world and the media chose that event to focus on. I guess it was a reprieve from their bashing of George Bush campaign.
We waste so much of our energy on things that are not eternal that if we focused on the things God has called us to we would make a difference in the lives of those around us. Don't get me wrong success is great and money is great and many times I have found myself wanting to do more but was limited by my budget. What I didn't do though is do nothing because I had nothing to give. I realized I had something. I had time and ideas. I had energy that could be donated to projects that were important to the church.
We have known for years that the Laborers were few. We do not need a prophet or visions to tell us. What we need is ready willing workers who will come along side their pastors and put aside their agendas for the betterment of God's Kingdom.
My daughter for being young has great insight. Her heart aches for the lost children of Darfur. She often says mom the media bashes our President and they cry foul over a war. The war is tragic and it affects all daily. But those men fight for our civil liberties everyday and some give there lives for it and we are saddened by it. But you cannot say that the media has chosen to have a bias focus on that.
The reality is that men are dieing but more children are dieing every day in Africa from aids and starvation. Genocide has been occurring for years and yet we barely hear anything about that. Thousands and thousands of children die everyday and I have yet to see one reporter cover their funeral. Where are the cameras on there deaths and all the tragic events they are enduring everyday while you waste money covering events that don't even measure up in the grand scheme of eternity? If they took the money that they put into cameras, and stories, and traveling for their crews it could feed those children for months maybe even a year. I know their jobs are necessary but their lop sided reporting really gets my goat.
Well you say thats fine and great but I don't live in Africa. Ok than. In our country more children die everyday than men have died in the Iraqi war since it started. They die at the hands of their own abusive parents every year. They die in our cities and in our streets at the hands of violent criminals. Where is the cry of injustice from our Media on those social issues.
If we each decided to make a difference in the lives of those around us I believe we could change the world. Recently I read a story from a family in North Carolina who had a children's African choir at their church. The women spoke on how God told her two of those boys were hers. I remember because she didn't want to hear God at first but knew she had to. Her obedience and her actions resulted in over 30 children being adopted from a orphanage in Africa. Well you might say I can't do that.
Maybe you can't but can you answer a phone, can you make copies, bake goodies, clean restrooms, volunteer to serve your pastor, or better yet volunteer at a ministry. All of those things cost next to nothing and many are free. But yet our people act as if we are asking for their cars or homes. (God can do that too by the way) Is it that much to ask for?
We are given so much and yet we give our energy and our time to things that don't mean much. I do it too. Our kids play sports and we are busy. My husband runs a ministry and that takes time and there are other things. But if we gave God half the energy we give the world we would have to build more churches to fit all the people whose lives would be touched. Your actions can make a difference. What will you do? Will you get in the game of life or will you sit idle and watch the world set the tone? It won't only affect others but will affect your little piece of the world too. Get involved. I bet if you talked with your Pastor you would find out he has so much vision for the city and how to make a impact but simply needs help. I know because as Pastors there is so much we want to do to make our city better, the lives of those we love better, and our schools, oh our schools how they need us. But, we can't do it alone. We are trying but we simply need you to get involved. Don't wait till tomorrow do it today.....
Friday, March 23, 2007
What are the odds?
Yesterday was just another ordinary day in the Curlee household. When you have three daughters, a dog, a cat, oh and husband who sometimes needs more help than the kids finding something, what else could it be?
My oldest daughter has a birthday tomorrow which led us to a trip into the city. I am in deep denial that my baby girl is growing up. She is a beautiful young lady but that is not what makes her who she is. As beautiful as she is on the outside the inside is even more so.
Many people told me wait 'til she's a teenager, she will change. Well, they were wrong. Don't you just love those people. She still is that sweet little girl she always was but better. She has a clear vision of her life and where she sees herself but best of all boy does she love GOD. She really loves Him not because her parents want her to but because she wants to. This year she went to public school for the first time and we were a little worried. We always told her don't let school change who you are but you change it. She took our words to heart and got to work. Being an athlete she had a platform and she used it. She plays volleyball all year so when the season started she began inviting the people around her to our youth meetings. By the time the season ended she had more than half the team at youth and more than that half saved. She wasn't finished there though. She got involved in FCA and started making a difference there. They are 150 strong and still growing.
So can you tell we are proud of her. Why the story? Well God can do just about anything when you believe He can. We always told her she was different. That she was set apart. We have prayed for all children every night since their birth. We have blessed them and taught them the God has great plans for them. We have prayed His favor and blessing on their lives not really knowing when that would happen but just doing it by faith. It has become such a ritual at our house that every night no matter where we are we stop for those moments with them before we kiss them goodnight. At times it is hard especially when your tired and you just want to go to bed. That is when they come in and pray for me and tuck me in. Isn't God great?
My daughter, last night, left her purse at a restaurant and did not realize it until we were home. I called the restaurant and asked if someone had turned it in not really expecting it. (shame on me) I was informed by the manager that no one had but I left my number just by chance that someone would. It is then that I began to pray and ask God to give her favor to return her purse back. You see it was more than a purse to her. She has always been a good steward she works babysitting and helps out at our coffee shop at church and saves her money. Last year she wanted a Dooney Burke for her birthday. As much as we love her, that is simply an item not on our Pastors budget. I encouraged her to save her money and when she got close we would visit that again. Well she did just that she saved and saved any money she could: birthday money, job money, or babysitting money. Giving God of course what was his first. She reached her goal with great pride and I took her to purchase her great possession. I remembered all this as I was praying for her. Not so much for the return but more for the comforting words I needed to speak to her if it was gone. Inside her purse was her cell phone, her I-Pod, and her birthday money she had received from her grandparents and uncle.
Well we took a chance and dialed her phone once again not expecting an answer. What faith we displayed? But on the insistence of her younger sister we called anyway. The first time no one answered, the second time went to voice mail, then a answer. We asked the gentlemen if he had the purse and he said he did. We set up a meeting all still wondering why he took the purse from the restaurant then answered the phone when we called. I was a little worried about the meeting so I went with my husband not that I could have helped but it made me feel better. We arrived in the city and called him. We arrived at the meeting place and waited. It took him a while and to be honest I was loosing faith quickly not that it was big to begin with.
Well praise God he showed up! He really showed up. He did not say much except to hand the purse and leave. We did get his name but not many answers on why? It all seemed really strange but everything was there. All of it the phone, i-pod, the money all of it. How awesome is God? The odds of that happening are really slim. I don't know why he took it or why he returned it but I'm glad he did. It shows me that their are still some good people in this world. It also showed me of how a simply ritual at bedtime every night can make such a huge difference in my children's life as well as teach us parents to not be so cynical. Where was my faith?
Thanks girls for reminding me and for insisting to not let me go to bed without blessing my babies. I love you and I'm continually learning from you each day.
To the gentlemen out there, "Bless you too sir". I pray that God blesses you and gives you favor as well.
My oldest daughter has a birthday tomorrow which led us to a trip into the city. I am in deep denial that my baby girl is growing up. She is a beautiful young lady but that is not what makes her who she is. As beautiful as she is on the outside the inside is even more so.
Many people told me wait 'til she's a teenager, she will change. Well, they were wrong. Don't you just love those people. She still is that sweet little girl she always was but better. She has a clear vision of her life and where she sees herself but best of all boy does she love GOD. She really loves Him not because her parents want her to but because she wants to. This year she went to public school for the first time and we were a little worried. We always told her don't let school change who you are but you change it. She took our words to heart and got to work. Being an athlete she had a platform and she used it. She plays volleyball all year so when the season started she began inviting the people around her to our youth meetings. By the time the season ended she had more than half the team at youth and more than that half saved. She wasn't finished there though. She got involved in FCA and started making a difference there. They are 150 strong and still growing.
So can you tell we are proud of her. Why the story? Well God can do just about anything when you believe He can. We always told her she was different. That she was set apart. We have prayed for all children every night since their birth. We have blessed them and taught them the God has great plans for them. We have prayed His favor and blessing on their lives not really knowing when that would happen but just doing it by faith. It has become such a ritual at our house that every night no matter where we are we stop for those moments with them before we kiss them goodnight. At times it is hard especially when your tired and you just want to go to bed. That is when they come in and pray for me and tuck me in. Isn't God great?
My daughter, last night, left her purse at a restaurant and did not realize it until we were home. I called the restaurant and asked if someone had turned it in not really expecting it. (shame on me) I was informed by the manager that no one had but I left my number just by chance that someone would. It is then that I began to pray and ask God to give her favor to return her purse back. You see it was more than a purse to her. She has always been a good steward she works babysitting and helps out at our coffee shop at church and saves her money. Last year she wanted a Dooney Burke for her birthday. As much as we love her, that is simply an item not on our Pastors budget. I encouraged her to save her money and when she got close we would visit that again. Well she did just that she saved and saved any money she could: birthday money, job money, or babysitting money. Giving God of course what was his first. She reached her goal with great pride and I took her to purchase her great possession. I remembered all this as I was praying for her. Not so much for the return but more for the comforting words I needed to speak to her if it was gone. Inside her purse was her cell phone, her I-Pod, and her birthday money she had received from her grandparents and uncle.
Well we took a chance and dialed her phone once again not expecting an answer. What faith we displayed? But on the insistence of her younger sister we called anyway. The first time no one answered, the second time went to voice mail, then a answer. We asked the gentlemen if he had the purse and he said he did. We set up a meeting all still wondering why he took the purse from the restaurant then answered the phone when we called. I was a little worried about the meeting so I went with my husband not that I could have helped but it made me feel better. We arrived in the city and called him. We arrived at the meeting place and waited. It took him a while and to be honest I was loosing faith quickly not that it was big to begin with.
Well praise God he showed up! He really showed up. He did not say much except to hand the purse and leave. We did get his name but not many answers on why? It all seemed really strange but everything was there. All of it the phone, i-pod, the money all of it. How awesome is God? The odds of that happening are really slim. I don't know why he took it or why he returned it but I'm glad he did. It shows me that their are still some good people in this world. It also showed me of how a simply ritual at bedtime every night can make such a huge difference in my children's life as well as teach us parents to not be so cynical. Where was my faith?
Thanks girls for reminding me and for insisting to not let me go to bed without blessing my babies. I love you and I'm continually learning from you each day.
To the gentlemen out there, "Bless you too sir". I pray that God blesses you and gives you favor as well.
Thursday, March 22, 2007
Reaching Out To Exhaustion
What a week we have had......
We had our regular youth meeting last night. It was a great night! It is amazing to see young people coming and inviting their friends to church. Yeah, how awesome is that...they are inviting their friends to church. You know that says something. Young people are not known to invite their friends anywhere they don't think is cool or good. They have a selectivity that is not always easy to figure out.
Why do you think merchandisers target that age group? They understand their buying power. It is understandable why their endorsement means so much. For years companies like Coke, Gatorade, and McDonald's have all known something the church has failed to know. We as a church need to launch an all out assault on the enemy and turn our focus on reaching this unique generation.
I don't know about you guys but I feel exhilerated every Wednesday and can't wait till the next one. I want to be on a winning team, one that is making a difference in the lives of those we love. I know I love our kids. Is it perfect? No, of course not, but it's pretty close. Stay tune for more because I believe we are about to blow the roof off.
Every week we continue to grow and every week new faces are walking into our building all seeking the same thing. They are seeking a God encounter and I am glad that we are able to be a part of that.
We had our regular youth meeting last night. It was a great night! It is amazing to see young people coming and inviting their friends to church. Yeah, how awesome is that...they are inviting their friends to church. You know that says something. Young people are not known to invite their friends anywhere they don't think is cool or good. They have a selectivity that is not always easy to figure out.
Why do you think merchandisers target that age group? They understand their buying power. It is understandable why their endorsement means so much. For years companies like Coke, Gatorade, and McDonald's have all known something the church has failed to know. We as a church need to launch an all out assault on the enemy and turn our focus on reaching this unique generation.
I don't know about you guys but I feel exhilerated every Wednesday and can't wait till the next one. I want to be on a winning team, one that is making a difference in the lives of those we love. I know I love our kids. Is it perfect? No, of course not, but it's pretty close. Stay tune for more because I believe we are about to blow the roof off.
Every week we continue to grow and every week new faces are walking into our building all seeking the same thing. They are seeking a God encounter and I am glad that we are able to be a part of that.
Tuesday, March 20, 2007
one life at a time
I thought since I never really told you who I was I should maybe give you a little background on who I am.
As I have told you before, I am married to Pastor Jay as our kids know him, to me he is simply Jay. We have been married for 15 years and in the ministry 12 of those 15. I must admit that it is never a dull moment and life creates many adventures we have been on. We have three beautiful daughters representing every age group. We have a teenager, a tweener, and a pre-schooler. We also have a dog named Lilly and a cat named Allie all girls by the way pray for my husband. All which keep us very busy, young, and exhausted all at the same time.
I am a stay at home mom for the first time in my life. It was a challenge to adjust to suddenly being home and being mom 24/7. I had coached girls volleyball for the past 10 years and I absolutely love the game. I truly miss the sport and the excitement that went with it.
Just so you know God does have a sense of humor. When we were called to the ministry I really hated traveling and my biggest fear in life is still public speaking. (ha!Ha!) Goes to show that God can use anyone.
Life at the Curlee home resembles a three ring circus. My daughters are into invading my space or don't touch my things and many other ordeals that only could traumatize a teenage. I have come to think my name is MOOOOOOMMMMMMM...... I should buy a black and white stripped shirt and wear it everyday so that at least I'm dressed to be their referee.
But really I have a three wonderful daughters who are each unique and wonderfully made. I can honestly say they are good girls who we love dearly. Jay and I have a great relationship after 16 years of marriage and dating he is still the love of my life. Yes, he still makes my knees weak..... enough said.
We have a unique partnership in life as well as in ministry. We have always gone into things together and I think we are a great team. Don't get me wrong ministry was not my first choice and I have grown to love it. I wanted cooperate America with a suburban life with no worries. I have many times felt like what I got was ministry with disappointments and many hurts inflicted by the same people we minister to. I won't lie that many times I thought I was angry but realized I was deeply wounded and disillusioned with ministry. It was mostly my fault, somehow I thought people would just know the sacrifice or the price that we were paying as a family. You see ministry is not a get rich job many churches across America are small churches with small budgets and they do the best they can. We have been at all spectrum's of ministry big and small and love both. But it did come at a price.
I say all this only to say that through everything the low and the highs we have stayed together we have loved each other and never stop believing in each other. It did cause stress at times but it ultimately lead us to cross where we found strength to continue.
So, here we are better and stronger making a difference one life at a time.
As I have told you before, I am married to Pastor Jay as our kids know him, to me he is simply Jay. We have been married for 15 years and in the ministry 12 of those 15. I must admit that it is never a dull moment and life creates many adventures we have been on. We have three beautiful daughters representing every age group. We have a teenager, a tweener, and a pre-schooler. We also have a dog named Lilly and a cat named Allie all girls by the way pray for my husband. All which keep us very busy, young, and exhausted all at the same time.
I am a stay at home mom for the first time in my life. It was a challenge to adjust to suddenly being home and being mom 24/7. I had coached girls volleyball for the past 10 years and I absolutely love the game. I truly miss the sport and the excitement that went with it.
Just so you know God does have a sense of humor. When we were called to the ministry I really hated traveling and my biggest fear in life is still public speaking. (ha!Ha!) Goes to show that God can use anyone.
Life at the Curlee home resembles a three ring circus. My daughters are into invading my space or don't touch my things and many other ordeals that only could traumatize a teenage. I have come to think my name is MOOOOOOMMMMMMM...... I should buy a black and white stripped shirt and wear it everyday so that at least I'm dressed to be their referee.
But really I have a three wonderful daughters who are each unique and wonderfully made. I can honestly say they are good girls who we love dearly. Jay and I have a great relationship after 16 years of marriage and dating he is still the love of my life. Yes, he still makes my knees weak..... enough said.
We have a unique partnership in life as well as in ministry. We have always gone into things together and I think we are a great team. Don't get me wrong ministry was not my first choice and I have grown to love it. I wanted cooperate America with a suburban life with no worries. I have many times felt like what I got was ministry with disappointments and many hurts inflicted by the same people we minister to. I won't lie that many times I thought I was angry but realized I was deeply wounded and disillusioned with ministry. It was mostly my fault, somehow I thought people would just know the sacrifice or the price that we were paying as a family. You see ministry is not a get rich job many churches across America are small churches with small budgets and they do the best they can. We have been at all spectrum's of ministry big and small and love both. But it did come at a price.
I say all this only to say that through everything the low and the highs we have stayed together we have loved each other and never stop believing in each other. It did cause stress at times but it ultimately lead us to cross where we found strength to continue.
So, here we are better and stronger making a difference one life at a time.
Monday, March 19, 2007
My March Madness
What a weekend we had.
Have you ever had one of those jam packed weekends where every single minute has to go as planned?
Well, that happened to me this weekend. I was the victim of daylight savings time once again. My youngest daughter was a flower girl in one of our leaders wedding this weekend and she was a total princess in her dress.
Now here is the madness that it took to get her there. She had to be at the hairdresser by 10:30 a.m. to have her hair done. When I left my house, I left at 10:30 but should have gotten suspicious when she sat on the chair forever and I could not believe it was only 11:30. I thought to myself that I had enough time to take my oldest daughter to buy a pair of shoes she wanted for the wedding (p.s. she had already bought a pair she did not like once got home.)
Life with a teenager is always an adventure that story will come at a later date.
Next, my middle daughter calls and asks if she can get dressed and informs me that it is 1:00 already. I thought she was over anxious and I had more time so I checked my cell phone and realized it had not been changed to daylight savings time. (I blame my husband for that one)
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.
I rush home because my youngest has to get dressed and I have to be at the church by 1:30, not funny. It was the fastest change job I have ever preformed. It was like watching a t.v. show on fast forward. That must be what Clark Kent felt like when he was changing into Superman. My poor cat sat and watched in complete confusion wondering why things were so chaotic. You would have to know me to understand my compulsion to never leave home without everything in it's place. Needless to say that did not happen that day. Nothing like a time crunch to cure a little O.C.D.
Well, we did make it to the wedding and it was perfection. It is always beautiful to watch a young couple come together who did it right. Their choice to wait till marriage was encouraging to us as Pastors. It shows us that there is still hope for a generation that most have labeled as lost or to far gone. I witnessed two amazing young people come together this weekend who set a great example to those who witnessed their union. All had a good cry and many ooh's and aahs.
Not sure if it was the wedding or just pure exhaustion.
Have you ever had one of those jam packed weekends where every single minute has to go as planned?
Well, that happened to me this weekend. I was the victim of daylight savings time once again. My youngest daughter was a flower girl in one of our leaders wedding this weekend and she was a total princess in her dress.
Now here is the madness that it took to get her there. She had to be at the hairdresser by 10:30 a.m. to have her hair done. When I left my house, I left at 10:30 but should have gotten suspicious when she sat on the chair forever and I could not believe it was only 11:30. I thought to myself that I had enough time to take my oldest daughter to buy a pair of shoes she wanted for the wedding (p.s. she had already bought a pair she did not like once got home.)
Life with a teenager is always an adventure that story will come at a later date.
Next, my middle daughter calls and asks if she can get dressed and informs me that it is 1:00 already. I thought she was over anxious and I had more time so I checked my cell phone and realized it had not been changed to daylight savings time. (I blame my husband for that one)
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.
I rush home because my youngest has to get dressed and I have to be at the church by 1:30, not funny. It was the fastest change job I have ever preformed. It was like watching a t.v. show on fast forward. That must be what Clark Kent felt like when he was changing into Superman. My poor cat sat and watched in complete confusion wondering why things were so chaotic. You would have to know me to understand my compulsion to never leave home without everything in it's place. Needless to say that did not happen that day. Nothing like a time crunch to cure a little O.C.D.
Well, we did make it to the wedding and it was perfection. It is always beautiful to watch a young couple come together who did it right. Their choice to wait till marriage was encouraging to us as Pastors. It shows us that there is still hope for a generation that most have labeled as lost or to far gone. I witnessed two amazing young people come together this weekend who set a great example to those who witnessed their union. All had a good cry and many ooh's and aahs.
Not sure if it was the wedding or just pure exhaustion.
Saturday, March 17, 2007
On the Flip Side
It has been a while since my last post to be exact last October. Where does the time fly? If you don't know me I am Robbie Curlee pastor Jay's wife. If you really don't know me I am the out spoken part of the duo. I know I know it is hard to believe that I can be more outspoken than my husband but I am. I am known to speak my mind a time or two, so I must proceed by saying that anything I do or say is simply my opinion alone and not one that is representative of my husband or the great church he pastor's out of.
I have taken some time to reflect and think about the direction I wanted to go with my post. Actually I took 6 months to think about this and found I wanted to do the flip side. A flip side is a wife's prospective . If you are a pastors wife or a wife of someone who is in the ministry you will appreciate the sentiment. So, here we go......
How many of you have been in church greeting at the door with your best dress on and your best smile shaking hands and welcoming people only to be asked who are you? Not only asking who are you but when you tell them they respond by saying OH!!!!!!! your only the youth pastor's wife like that doesn't really count. You all know what I mean you hear the tone in the OHHHH then you get the look. This is where I smile politely but what I really want to say is WHAT..... My mind says do you have any idea how many hours we spend or the amount of work that goes into our week. Many times we work more hours or just as many as our Senior Pastors do. That is not to say that we think we are better b/c we love and appreciate our Pastor and everything that goes into what he does. We have a great Pastor with great vision and we know we are here to help build the vision he has for the church. But come on people have a little respect for what we do and if your not sure then volunteer some time at a youth event or a service then comment on you're only the youth pastors.
Now don't get me wrong I am not angry I am amused by some of the great comments made by the great people we lead. You know that you know that at some time in your ministry someone said something that made you want to use every Kung-Fu move that you know. Be honest you can't be in ministry and have never been there. If you deny it your not being entirely honest. Ok not that you would really use the moves because it's not really scriptural or political correct although you have to admit it would make a hysterical headline. Can you see it now? Pastor's wife goes Rambo on church member...just kidding really I am.
So, just so you know we are not just Youth Pastors we are Pastors. We work really hard, we have the same passion for souls, we love Christ with all our hearts, we love your teens and we want to be more than JUST a youth pastor to you......... The next time you run into your youth pastor or his wife thank them, love on them and let them know they are appreciated. Remember their dedication is no less then any other servant of Christ.
I have taken some time to reflect and think about the direction I wanted to go with my post. Actually I took 6 months to think about this and found I wanted to do the flip side. A flip side is a wife's prospective . If you are a pastors wife or a wife of someone who is in the ministry you will appreciate the sentiment. So, here we go......
How many of you have been in church greeting at the door with your best dress on and your best smile shaking hands and welcoming people only to be asked who are you? Not only asking who are you but when you tell them they respond by saying OH!!!!!!! your only the youth pastor's wife like that doesn't really count. You all know what I mean you hear the tone in the OHHHH then you get the look. This is where I smile politely but what I really want to say is WHAT..... My mind says do you have any idea how many hours we spend or the amount of work that goes into our week. Many times we work more hours or just as many as our Senior Pastors do. That is not to say that we think we are better b/c we love and appreciate our Pastor and everything that goes into what he does. We have a great Pastor with great vision and we know we are here to help build the vision he has for the church. But come on people have a little respect for what we do and if your not sure then volunteer some time at a youth event or a service then comment on you're only the youth pastors.
Now don't get me wrong I am not angry I am amused by some of the great comments made by the great people we lead. You know that you know that at some time in your ministry someone said something that made you want to use every Kung-Fu move that you know. Be honest you can't be in ministry and have never been there. If you deny it your not being entirely honest. Ok not that you would really use the moves because it's not really scriptural or political correct although you have to admit it would make a hysterical headline. Can you see it now? Pastor's wife goes Rambo on church member...just kidding really I am.
So, just so you know we are not just Youth Pastors we are Pastors. We work really hard, we have the same passion for souls, we love Christ with all our hearts, we love your teens and we want to be more than JUST a youth pastor to you......... The next time you run into your youth pastor or his wife thank them, love on them and let them know they are appreciated. Remember their dedication is no less then any other servant of Christ.
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